Tuesday, October 14, 2008

The Bliss Of Parenthood and a SAHM :)

Life has been pretty hectic for me lately. Last time while Angel was still a tiny crying baby, I would consoled myself that I will be much free to do my own things and be a little more relax when Angel finally can walk and run and play by herself …………. but I think I am not totally correct, at least not until this moment as yet.

Instead, she naps lesser and lesser nowadays and always wanted my attention to the fullest. She wants me to play with her, read her stories books (while she flips the pages without even listening to me), singing songs to her, etc or else, she will be crying and whining until I give in. When I am making her lunch, now and then I have to peep at her to see if she is climbing the dinning chair, jumping on the sofa, pulling out all my safety corner-guards, shifting our furniture around, attempt to break my safety locks with her 'iron fingers', try to climb on top of our glass coffee table to do her normal stuns or even using her books as her skateboard which is so dangerous, etc. If I saw her doing one of her stuns again, I will have to make my 100 meter ran out from the kitchen, sometimes holding whatever I am holding at that moment still (sometimes vege, sometimes meat, and sometimes even a cooking ladle, etc) to rescue her or stopped her from all the dangerous stuffs that she just loves to do. That is why I do not want a safety gate at my kitchen entrance or else, I will have to jump my hurdle as well which I do not know whether I am going to make it :(

Or else, you will hear me shouting, “Angel Nooooooooooo!!!!!” “Angel don’t do that!!!!” ….. etc from the kitchen as loud as the thunder which I think my whole house did trembled a bit. (I hope I am not getting any complains from the neighbours soon.) Sometimes, a 20 minutes cooking time will be dragged until almost an hour or 2 because I have to stop whatever I am doing just to entertain her or attended to her crying needs. Or else, she will be running into the kitchen pulling my pants and crying out loud ……. Sometimes all she wants is for me to give her a little hug …. (Most of the time, it seems like 1 is not enough but a hug in every minute which means I have to stop whatever I am doing basically.) If she finally naps in the afternoon, sometimes I will find myself sitting on the couch lifelessly and noticed that the morning coffee which I had made for myself is already turning into “Kopi ping” sitting nicely on the kitchen table untouched still. If she were still awake during my lunch time, I will have to eat with one hand holding the spoon and trying to swallow my food as fast as possible and at the same time the other hand is trying to hold / stop her from grabbing my food or pulling my plates away or climbing all over me as if she is the monkey and I am the tree. I think my left hand has been doing a lot of exercise and gaining muscles everyday :P Or else, I will be raising my voice with my mouth full, sometimes almost choked ...... asking her not to climb up or under the dinning table knocking her head or worst, pulling my computer cords trying to pull my notebook down from the table, etc.

I hardly can go online nowadays coz as soon as she sees me with my notebook, she will try to pull my hands away from my laptop and whining at the same time asking me to play with her. While she sleep, I need to quickly get those house chores done plus prepare the dishes for dinner time, dish washing, ironing, etc. Sometimes after hubby gets back from work and had our dinner, I need to rush for another round of groceries shopping while hubby looks after Angel. I need to do the shopping as quickly as possible so that I can rush back to bath Angel before the night gets too cold. To add in the fun, Angel refuses to sleep until it was almost 11pm nowadays but I have to lay in bed with her (with so much things to do and not done yet) which means my private times is really almost gone to NIL by now. Sigh!! I can hardly find time to do my own stuffs let alone blogging nowadays …….

I do hope that this will be just another phase of her growing up because I am already totally drained with 1 kid only. Really cannot imagine if I were to have 2 or 3 if they were all as naughty and as demanding as Angel. This is truly the ‘fun’ of parenthood so I might as well enjoy the ‘fun’ of it and attending to her needs because she will always be the priority in my life :) So if you mommies were to see me disappeared from my blog again, you will now what I have been up to lately :) :) I wonder is it only me or other mommies is also having such a hectic schedule and so much ‘FUN’ with the little ones everyday …… (You know what I mean ………… :P :P)

25 comments:

agnes said...

well, my ji-jar-poh behave EXACTLY the same!!!! thank god my mom is the one who taking care of her in the day & i sometimes pity my mom since still need to chase/rush up & down for her at this age!!! u know?? so i will try my best to go home early everyday so my mom can prepare the dinner while i will look after chloe. else, i can assure u that we wont have dinner until either my husband or i come home. my mom cant bear to leave her alone in the living room coz her action is always faster than what u can imagine!!! OMG...
she plays until 11-12am each nite as well, she wont play alone but to drag me/daddy along till i usually sleep-with-eye-open?!?!!
i cant have peace of mind at meal time as well. she demand u to company her while im half way eating.. and i lost my appetite when back to the seat (that's the answer of why i can get back in shape so fast!!! or even lighter than last time).
i sleep at 12am+ and get up 7am to keep her entertain.. and go to office only at 10am and back at 6pm (thanks to my flexi working hrs).. then continue to be the monkey to amuse her.. then do house chores again... coz i want my mom to get rest more..
hehee, same thought as u too.. 1 oredi so busy & cant imagine the second 1..
wonder if u got time to do big biss in toilet? or got time to take shower in the morning?? since nobody at home adi rite?
i will move back to my mom place if my husband went oversea, i cant take care of her alone la.. surrender.. headache mann..
good that u keep positive mind and enjoy ur job!!! :P that's most important!!!

little prince's mummy said...

No choice lo...
I think all mummies also same...
Sacrifice time for sleep, time for entertainment, time for cinema, time for outings with friends, time for travel oversea etc... after having little ones at home...

Total change of lifestyle~~~

MommyAngel said...

Hi Agnes, wow ... I thought Angel is the only one and guess that she has a friend in your house too :P EXACTLY, Angel won't want to play alone and will also drag me and hubby (must be both oh) to play with her and wants us to clap our hands for whatever she has done or else, another crying episode will happened, sigh!!

About doing big business, last time I used to carry her and let her sit on my lap because she just refuse me to leave her sight (maybe that's why I am always constipated @-@) and now, things is getting better, She will follow me into the toilet and playing with the shampoo, etc. If she wakes up on the wrong site of the bed, tell you Agnes, I will be on a day without brushing my teeth or even washing my face (yep, I know it's rediculour but that is the real situation) until she finally had her afternoon nap then I get to do all that .... morning bath??? ..... in my dreams maybe :) But hor, I am your opposite, when I am under pressure or no time to eat, I tends to fill my tummy with all the quick and easy reached junk food and gain more weight, sad!!! Actually I really salute your mom Agnes for still willing to take up the task of taking good care of your daughter ..... you know, the age and stamina etc with elder ppl ….. did she ever complain to you about your girl?? she is such a good mom and good grandma :) Salute!!

Peiwun, I think sacrifices is a normal thing but sometimes, it's more the sacrifices that she is demanding ..... well, I am hoping that this will just be another phase of growing up for her or else …… Hey!!! I think I have got myself a promotion from a 'Fulltime Maid' to a 'Fulltime Slave' :`(

Mummy Gwen said...

Wow..you are surely worn out with an active Angel. :P I think most toddlers are like that. Climbing, seek attention, etc,... Makes me think that my Gwen is not normal..haha. She never climb the sofa or dining chairs. Maybe Gwen is the timid type. She could play by herself, searching for toys from the plastic containers while I do my housework. She always hang out at the living room, so when I cook I can see her from the kitchen. But once I'm seated in front of the laptop, she would pull me away..haha.
She can be quite well behaved at home but when we are out she is a rascal. Don't want to go home when at the playground or certain places. Recently she has a new bad habit, lie down on the floor on her tummy when she doesn't want to go our way while we pull her away.
But it still under control coz she cannot win all the time. Every age also has it own difficult period..haha..

Julie said...

All kids the somehow rather the same. It's just a phase I'll say. When I'm at home with Jonathan, waking up late and getting myself a good afternoon nap is the last thing that could happen. When Jonathan is awake, I'll be accompanying him. When he is asleep, that is the best time to do whatever I can as quickly as possible.

Like you say, we will be shouting over the kitchen to stop them from creating a havock. Or running like mad with a ladle on our hand. Hehe...that's part of parenthood.

MeRy said...

Caroline - Actually I am facing the same issue like u.....having hectic schedule for whole day 24/7. Its like a routine ,repeat everyday. Have to feed Ryan bfst/lunch/dinner, bath him,play with thim,bring him go gai gai. Now Ryan dun really like stay at home, prefer go outside yard walk walk...his itchy hands keep touch here n there and I just hav to pay xtra attention in case he touch sand/flower/insects,etc,must faster wash his hands clean & make sure he dun rub his face or eyes with dirty hands. I can say my time is all for him 24/7. It makes me feel tired and lazy to update my blog & Online nowadays.

We are in the same boat...just bear with it and let's have fun with ur kid.

Wonderful Life said...

My Ryan wakes up in the middle of the night crawling, ransacking & playing with the things in my room!

He refused to sleep back...and kept hanging out at the door wanted to go out of the room... sigh.

Well, everything is worth it when you see the little one growing up healthily & happily :)

Esmeralda said...

Hi Caroline... I was about to write all these in my blog when I'm free, but I think I don't have so much time to write so many things.. Haha... so maybe just have to forget about blogging about it for the moment.

In actual fact, all those that you've written is what I've been going thru now. From morning till early morning (midnite that is..) it seems that 24 hrs a day is not enuf! It's true when u said u were putting Angel to slp. I'm also lying down on the bed waiting for Ashton to slp (of coz that's a mini-rest for d day)while my brain is thinking of the KIV house chores that are not done yet like laundry, clothes folding, etc. We need to learn more bout multi-tasks(haha.. I'm typing tis wid 1 hand while 1 hand is carrying d sleeping prince coz he made a fuss wanted me to carry him while he slps today).

Talking bout morning coffee, most of d time I just take my 2-in-1 brunch... coz no time to sit down hv bfast. Better use the time to do other things tat is still in the To-Do List for d day.

I do envy u as u still can manage to do another round of groceries shopping after ur hb is back. When my hb is back, it's way past dinner time sometimes, so I can only manage my groceries shopping in d morning/afternoon. D problem is getting d groceries up to unit -- that's d job of my handy trolley which I just bought few weeks back. So 1 hand holding Ashton's hand, 1 hand pulling d trolley while my shoulder is carrying his bag, n my handbag. So 3 times a week wiil be my "weight-lifting work-out"..

About chasing Angel wid vege, meat or cooking I've been in ur shoes too!

Anyway, no matter how tired/exhausted I am, I'm very fulfilled in d sense tat I'm able to see the stages of Ashton growing up. :) And I hpe tat it's d same wid u!

Serene said...

Caroline, I'm facing EXACTLY like what you've mentioned in this post!! I can understand and imagine how the situation are.

Well, Xixi also as demanding as Angel. She doesn't let me have a little chance to sit in front of laptop. I not have my private hours if she was awake! She used to be taken care by my mum last time. But my mum always complaint and ended up I have to sacrifice my job and become SAHM.

I and hubby plan to send her to FULL DAY childcare when she turns 2year old. So i will go back to work again, while she will learn things from there and same times can mix with other kids. Rather than she just sit at home watching her Barney every day! I do hope our plans will comes true, as i really scare see her crying when we send her there...

Anyway, these are part of parenthood. Always full of "FUN"!

the little prince said...

Interesting ya...here become platform to release our 'pressure'

I truly understand how mummy caroline feel...

I sometimes forgot to brush teeth or wash face in the morning cos busy with him since he wake up!
Nowaday, no time to do scrub,mask at all!!
Feel so bad for my face..recently back to Melaka, busy packing, prepare him n myself n prepare his lunch...till reached Melaka, my little monster taking his afternoon nap, I just realise I Totally forgot to brush teeth n wash face!! Really Blur Blur mummy ya!!

Sarah's Daddy and Mommy said...

Caroline, dont worry...I think you are not alone in the busy and hectic life. But of course, you are more busier than me (at this moment), but I am sure I will catch up soon..oh no!

Anyway, I think I must give you compliment because you have done a great job in taking k of Angel.

MommyAngel said...

It’s so nice to read all mommies sharing their ‘fun’ here …. At least makes me feel that I am not alone …. :P

Hi Mummy Gwen, I think Gwen is an obedient kid at home. It’s good that she did not climb sofa, etc … coz girl suppose to behave that way, right? Maybe she pulls you away from your computer because she knows that mommy is done with the work once she sits in front of the computer so it’s time to play with her, hehehe …. Clever girl she is :) It’s good that she is still under control even if she naughty when she is out with you ….. as for me, even though me and hubby can fight my girl physically (she is very strong I must say for a kid her age) but she has the most powerful weapon …. CRYING AS LOUD AS SHE CAN BE so that everyone in the mall starts staring at us (as if she is being tortured or something ) while we was pulling her away which is so embarrassing :(

Hi Julie, I do hope this will be just a phase ….. I do not mind if I wake up early or do not get a good afternoon nap at all but when you were so tired and feeling so exhausted but yet she is still grumpy and crying for no reason, walauuuu eh ….. really hard to bare at times. But I think Jonathan is a good boy lah, at least he don’t kacau mommy when mommy is eating ….. actually everyday I only hope for a peace and quite 15 minutes meal so that I can digest my food properly, seems like impossible in most of the days.

Hi Mery, you too ah?? Hahaha …. Ryan wants to go kai kai everyday. One thing you are right coz kids will touch here and there all the time ……. If we do not let them touch will be like so cruel hor didn’t let them explore ….. sigh. So do you have time to do your housework everyday? Does he disturb you when you are doing your house chores? Yes, basically I am like you, my 24/7 is fully for Angel. Really cannot imagine if I were to have a 2nd one ….. oh ….. no need to sleep lo.

Hi Doreen, really? Does he always do that (wake up in the middle of the night refuse to go back to sleep)? If my girl wakes up will always be crying and crying asking for us to get her out from her crib. She just do not like to sleep in her crib at all but if we were to put her on a mattress on the floor, I think she will be like little Ryan, ransacking my drawers, etc …. In my room, we have a standing fan which is dangerous for kids so we dare not to leave her alone in the room and she is being supervised (BY ME) all the time, oh …. How tired could that be but hey, like you said, everything is worth it la …. But some time off will be really nice also leh :P

Hi Esmeralda, wah … looks like all our kids is almost the same leh. When talked about putting Angel to sleep I think it was torturing because she wants me to sleep with her and I was so tired and dying for a sleep, lying on my soft cosy bed but yet, I cannot fall asleep as she will get down from the bed if she sees mommy is sleeping ….. oh, need to make myself awake on my cozy bed, sometimes will drag for hours …. Oh ……how torturing would that be. Wow …. You bring Ashton along for groceries shopping ah? You must have a very strong arms. I have tried, might as well go home liao. Even I go shopping and hubby carries little Angel, hubby also complains that he cannot stand the weight of Angel coz she will be like moving non-stop, arching her back all the time trying to set herself free from daddy, etc. She don’t even want to sit on the trolley and once you let her walk by herself, she will start to running like mad / start doing her stacking games with baked beans and the sardines …. @_@ My hubby is a strong 100kg man and 183 cm tall but yet, he will pass Angel to me every 10 minutes said that he needs a rest @_@ So if I were to bring Angel groceries shopping, I think I better stay at home :P But like you said, feeling exhausted but I am happy that I get the chance to see how ‘naughty’ she is ….. never regret for the decision I made after she was born la :)

Hi Serene, wow … you too ah? I thought Xixi is a obedient little girl leh :) Nice plans you have there but will you be sad to sent her to kiddy after she was 2 after spending so much time at home with her all these while ….. but it’s nice to be able to go back to working life isn’t it? Which line were you in previously? Sometimes I do dream that I could go back to work but I don’t think I have the heart to sent her to full day care leh …. I love taking care of her dispite she is so naughty because I think if other’s take care of her hor, do not know will they be as patience as me leh …… coz last time even her nanny refused to take care of her after 1 month because she told me once she is there at the nanny/s house, the nanny cannot even look after the other kid she has let alone clean her house coz Angel really needs 100% attention all the time. @_@ I am planning to sent her to pre-school to learn something too but only half day maybe … Oh …. How I hope can split myself into 2, half goes to work and the other half taking care of my little Angel, how nice :)

Hi Yugene, Hahahaha ….. that is so funny la. Actually I have experience of ‘forget to brush my teeth / wash my face too until I took my bath at night time, kekekeke ….. so there was 1 period I totally do not wash face / brush my teeth in the morning, don’t even mention putting on moisturizer or have a mask ….. but at least I am glad that I get to do all that most of the day now, so there is some improvements …. And I should be GLAD!!!

MommyAngel said...

Hi Joanne, oh .... don't worry, little Sarah is way more obedient then my Angel :) I do hope that Sarah didn't get to learn from my naughty girl oh .... (oppsss .... don't let her see my post here about naughty Angel's) .... hehehehe. Thanks for your compliment and support, I will do my best and have lots of 'fun' in the coming days :P :P

Esmeralda said...

Caroline... I used to bring him for groceries shopping when I hv my maid, but now no more. So what I did was I drop him off at my mum's, and go do my groceries shopping. Coz like u said, carrying them at this age is really demanding. They tend to move here and there. It's not like in overseas where everything & everywhere is bb friendly. Haha.. Our hb are almost the same. My hb went to gym quite often, and he carry weights. But when it comes to 12kg Ashton, he will just give up after few minutes. So I always make fun of him saying that he can carry a 10kg weight wid one hand, but not 12kg Ashton wid both hands??? Ridiculous ya? As if we have stronger arms then him... Sometimes I told him "now u carry Ashton, later no need to go gym lar, coz u already carry some weights.." Haha... Talking about sleeping, sometimes I do fell asleep while getting Ashton to slp. Luckily he never climb down the bed (or rather jump down from the bed.._

LittleLamb said...

Caroline...since you are alraedy busy taking care of 1 already, why not try to have number 2? since already sing-ku (suffer), why not suffer with 2???? imagine angel is 5 and u hv another one....would it be more tiring then??? just my thought la..

but i understand what u mean. i know how and what u r going through.

*big hugs to you*

MommyAngel said...

Esmeralda, kakaka …. Maybe you husband and my husband can go hand in hand shopping while both of us carrying our kid la, hahahaha …. It’s so funny reading your comment about your husband :P Wah …. He goes to gym often ah, then he got all those muscles lo …. Kekekeke ….. I did ask my hubby to join the gym too coz he seems to lost all the muscles he has while we were still dating and asked him to get those 6 pack but he told me lazy lar, etc and show me he also got 1 pack (his belly), hahaha. I think if your hubby carries weight often then Ashton should not be a problem to him leh, maybe he is just manja you la, kekeke.

Hi Rachel, hhmmm … you have got your point too but I am afraid I might not be able to handle 2 at a time all by myself leh …. Actually I agree with what you’ve said, it’s more tiring if I were to have my 2nd one if waited until Angel is 5 or older coz I might drag the process into 10 years (5 years each) ….. so looks like I will have to ‘work harder’ if I am thinking to have more kids lo ….. walau eh …. Can’t believe that I am actually thinking of making my life even more ‘fun’ with a second one at this moment :P

Sarah's Daddy and Mommy said...

From what I see now, Sarah definitely an active, notty and hot temper girl. I think I will have a hard time in taking k of her in the near future....

Dont worry, I will always give you encouragement.

Esmeralda said...

Haha.. That would be lovely Caroline, watching our hbs doing the groceries shopping while we carry our kids. I don't mind really. :) My hb likes to go to gym very much, but just that sometimes tied down wid work till very late and came back tired aldry. So now on and off he'll play basketball. Talking about 6 packs, he's working on it, but still unsuccessful.. Carrying Ashton is just peanuts for him, just that he dun wanna carry him. Sometimes he rather carry his diaper bag, and my handbag too!

MommyAngel said...

Joanne, thanks ya :)

Esmeralda, I can see that your hubby is a very health man leh ….. even play basketball, etc. My hubby has a lazy bum, he prefers eating KFC and watching the tele :(

Esmeralda said...

Haha.. yeah... he's a healthy cautious man. Very active in sports if he has the time.. But sometimes, I just wish that he will stay at home and watch TV (so that he can look after Ashton).. Haha... Evil mummy!

MommyAngel said...

My hubby stays at home most of the time watching tele but didn't help much in taking care of Angel also wor :(

Esmeralda said...

haha.. maybe u need to start to nag him about that...

MommyAngel said...

Hahaha .... shouting at Angel alone is enough lah .... where got so much energy to nag at another one - hubby somemore leh :P :P

cadbury said...

Good article, MommyAngel...
I totally agreed with you here...even go shopping also need to rush back...sigh!
I am a working mom, at least I no need to face my girl for 24x7, but, it is really tired to take care of her during night time while I always go to work with my panda eyes. What a scarification for us!! Arghh...!

MommyAngel said...

Ya .... that's true but I hope your girl is not as demanding and naughty as my girl :) It's not easy to be a mom, right :) Let us Jia-Yu !!!