Thursday, October 22, 2009

Getting Mischievous At 2Y6M



The first update after such a long time …… so let’s see how mischief she has become lately *wipe sweat*

After spending a couple of months of jolly good time with her grandparents, Angel finally came back to us for good. I surely missed her so much although I do get to see her quite often. However, I still remember vividly few weeks back how she cried her lungs out when she saw me living for the airport living her with her grandparents with tears rolling down her cheek for the very first time she saw me living (previously she would wave bye bye to me happily even though she knows that I am living). Although Angel’s grandma constantly update us that Angel is getting older and became well behave now, but after coming back to us for more then a week now, we do find that she not only getting more mischievous. Later after talking over with her grandma, I think that her well manner back then with her grandparents is mostly because she is afraid of her grandpa and hence do not dare to ‘fuss’ or misbehave or else, she would surely get a good spank or good scolding sessions!!

Now that she is back with us and her grandpa is not here anymore, suddenly she is like a loose horse, doing everything that would drive the adult up the wall. Whenever she went over the boundaries and saw that we put on an angry face ignoring her, she would start feeling sorry and came to us saying
“Ah-ma (grandma) Sorry~~~!! Ah-ma (grandma) Sayang~~~!!”
“Mommy Sorry~~~~!! Mommy Sayang!!”

Phrases like these would now came from her for more then 10 times per day but as soon as we put a smile back to our face, give her a hug and forgive her, she would be back to her mischievous self again doing whatever she was asked NOT to do previously putting a deaf ears on our advices and regard us like an invisible man!

When she wants something, she won’t asked for our permission no matter how many time we corrected her and instead, she would do like the way she liked it, snatched whatever we are holding / reading away from our hands out of a sudden, and run away as quickly as possible refused to give us back whatever she has taken and claimed that it belongs to her. Bringing her out to shopping is like constantly dragging a wild horse struggling to break loose every chance that she could, bend-walking 45 degree with us still dragging onto her hand! Whenever we are not looking, she would zoom off hiding from us taking that as an interesting game to play. She couldn’t stand still for even 1 minute lately and constantly moving, kicking, pulling, struggling and shaking her hands off ours, trying to do all sort of dangerous act and stunt while walking down the street. Crying and screaming in the mall or at home has become a norm to us and it can last for the entire day. Getting her to change her nappy or taking bath will eventually turning into ‘playing a catch’! Also, no matter how we try to please her or trying hard to fulfill her needs, there is always something that she wanted and her wants is always ever changing – want this, want that, what us to sit here and not there, want us to stand there and not here, want grandma to push the shopping cart and not daddy, she want to hold this and not that and when we give her this - she wants that instead, want us to eat that and not this then that again, wants A to feed her and not B and when A feed her, she wants B again, give her 1 she wants 2 then give her 2 she wants 3 …………. and always fuss fuss fuss for which seems like we will never ever pleased her or make her satisfied.

Previously, reasoning with her would work most of the time but not anymore! She would put on a cheeky look on her face knowing very well whenever she is doing something that she shouldn’t be doing but still, she would do that and repeated that again and again totally ignore what we said. Yesterday was her worst where she was actually acting like a hyperactive kid out of controlled, crying, screaming and throwing tantrums as if a Queen’s wishes were not granted after trying to please her for several attempts. Whenever she doesn’t feels happy, she would throw whatever she is holding and pushed everything including her bowl of rice onto the floor once. Stopping her from doing the dangerous stuns or making her to move away from dangerous stunt seems like too much to asked for. She has start using her crying as a way to get what she wants and throw tantrums like no body’s business disregard our sweet talk / tactic that used to worked on her. Instead, yesterday she even starts putting up a fight after coaxing her for an good hour until I finally cannot tolerant her behaviour anymore and give her a stern scolding and let her stand at her little naughty corner again feeling totally despair, exhausted and heart breaking watching her scream-crying on top of her voice showing no sign of compromising at all!!

That night after putting her to bed, I looked at her serene little face, feeling a little despair and drained. Suddenly I felt that not only that I am lost but I guess somewhere inside, she might be feeling the same too and I need to start handling her behaviour with a totally new approach. Things need to start from the scratched again just like before. I do noticed that she has become more hot tempered and demanding for some reason which I think I need to find a way to work it out on her. I do not know whether my new approach will work but I do hope that by showing her more Patience, Consistency in our actions, Understanding, and on the other hand, setting up a clearer boundaries and limits as well as explaining to her more on ones actions and consequences just like before as well as showering her with more Love and hugs ……. hopefully with all these, she would soon learn how to manage her own feelings and actions better and then move on from the terrible 2 stages marching into the next milestone in her development.

Despite all her mischievous, when she is in her better self, she still was the sweetest and cutest girl in the whole world which never fail to light up our life and put a smile on our face ^_^ She really needs a lot more of attention and dedication compare to other kids of her age that I have came a crossed but that’s my little girl! I just wished her to know that no matter how difficult these parenting path would be, Mommy will always by her side to guide her and lead her the way and love her no lesser.

Be good my dear little Angel, be good ya ……

18 comments:

Anggie's Journal said...

At least she say .. sorry then sayang again .... for my boy to say sorry is abit hard ...
Jeremy also hard to please lately.. no matter how we please him . there r still something not right to him.. i hope this phase of progress will over soon ....

but of cos he have his sweetest moment that can easily melt our heart ...

lil angel .. be good girl ya ..!!

Mommy to Chumsy said...

ahhhh...she is so adorable. i like to see her smile :) wow, it must be heartbreaking to leave her behind eh?

little prince's mummy said...

My son's in terrible 2 stage now.. and I start feeling the difference... Yet, sometimes they really can be very sweet, despite the mischievous moment.. haha!~

coffeesncookies said...

Ahh... finally, Angel is back..after such a long hiatus.
It's good to hear from her.
What have you been up to lately ? Based in China ? Thai ? Msia ?

Wonderful Life said...

my boy also like that... getting naughtier each day! sigh...

Wonderful Life said...

oh-oh, my boy would say, "sorry mummy. I love you mummy!"... simply say it out every time he did something wrong! That's his tactic to avoid from getting scolding/spanking.

Mama Mia said...

My daughter is also in terrible two stage. Full of mischief yet adorable..

Angeline said...

Many call this phase "the Terrible Twos", but both my boys were "Terrific Twos"... and many say "Fantastic Fours", mine was "Frustrating Fours"....

Still, the good news is, its a phase and it will pass..
*wink*

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LittleLamb said...

all kids are naughty..yes
just depends on the adults tolerance level..bbutthen..its so nice to see them growing up....

arrrrr miss Angel... see her..grow up so fast arleady...

Mummy Gwen said...

Wow..Angel is so big and pretty now. :) Wah...so many accessories hehe.

I guess it's the terrible 2 stage. Be patient ya..by 3 years old it will be better. :P Actually I'm a fierce mummy haha..

Oliveoylz said...

Just look at Angel...She has grown so much and is such a cutie!

Cynthia said...

nice updates... :D and I believe this is just a stage to go through.. Angel is a good girl.. :D

Sasha said...

hehe you have one to deal with, i have 2! It's a phase and let's go through it together

Mummy Moon said...

I think it is a phase and be patient, she grows older and will get better. But at least she could behave well when she is wt grandparent .

UmmiRosma said...

Hi dear..thanks for dropping by my "home". Really miss you and your Angel as well as ur stories. Oh ya..reading about Angel..we are actually facing the same situation. I giggled..as if im reading my own story about Habibi and Habibati now...

Whenever they are sleeping..my heart will be touched..thinking of what have been gone thru all these time..whether we are on the right track or otherwise. But I believe in whatever we did, do and still are doing..must be OK.

Take care and love always...

2ma said...

its really nice to read abt angel's updates! its a growing up phase!! enjoy!!

Joanne (",) said...

Angel more and more cheeky face now ya :) she is so so cute !

Leanne Leong said...

Reading this makes me feel that i am not alone... Really, Leanne is so like Angel. It is tough sometimes but like how a few my cousins advised, we should enjoy our kids as much as possible before they grow up so quickly... :)

Juliana