I am so blessed to have 2 sweetest little angels in my life now ^_^
Sunday, June 13, 2010
I am so blessed to have 2 sweetest little angels in my life now ^_^
Saturday, June 12, 2010
I came across an interesting article (in mandarin) about various way of punishment in young children from the internet. I think it will be useful for a mommy like me as long as it doesn't involved canning and smacking which I think it doesn't worked on my little one at all. Call me soft-hearted :P
An airticles on how to deal with pressure. Although taking care of 2 kids is not the same as dealing with pressure in the office but still, the pressure is not much different in some way :)
有一天，四十歲出頭的女強人苦惱無助地出現在心理醫生面前：『我不喜歡我的工作， 對同仁沒耐性，我也不關心他們， 我對我的工作感覺沒什麼意義，我每天都覺得很沮喪，早上爬不起來，晚上睡不著，還會無緣無故的掉眼淚。我想把工作辭掉，而且我也不缺錢。』心理醫師問：「你不工作，那你準備做什麼？」「我只是不想做了！」這位女主管回答。 心理醫師聽完她的情況，立刻勸她打消辭職的念頭。 『你不能這麼做。你如果把工作辭掉，你就會馬上成了一個專職的鬱症患者。你一定是遭遇到某些問題，你必須去緩解這些問題，而不是把工作辭掉。』 心理醫生勸她。當時，這位心緒煩亂的女主管正計劃把工作辭掉，準備到偏僻的鄉下買一棟房子，一 個人住在那裡。心理醫師一聽，「那就更危險了！因為你會更寂寞、更難過。
1 、認識壓力公式 鄭石岩教授在多年的諮商經驗中發現，人的壓力，可以用一個公式～～ 表現，壓力＝負載╱自我能力。 負載等於是卡車上所載的東西，自我功能就好像這部卡車的承載能力。如果上面負載的東西並沒有增加，可是你現在很難過，這就表示有幾個可能，一是你的自我功能減弱 了，一是你在上面加了太多別的東西、太多垃圾。例如，在辦公室跟同事處不好，回家後跟家人處不好，這些壓力、這些情緒，全都加到工作上去，就變成垃圾負載。這些衝突、情緒，其實跟你的工作並沒有關係，但都全部被加到你的工作裡面去。
2 、減輕垃圾負載 對於這些人來講，鄭石岩教授並不主張馬上把他們原來的主題負載減少，要減少的是他們的垃圾負載。根據這個壓力公式來分析，鄭石岩教授為那位女主管開了三個處方： 第一個處方是運動。因為運動可以刺激腦下垂體分泌腦內啡，使人的心情變好。第二個處方是儘量表現出開心的樣子。鄭石岩告訴那位女主管每天進辦公室前，就深深吸一口氣，裝一裝，假裝高興，感覺自己的胸口鬆開，把眉毛揚一揚，很高興，振作起來，再走進辦公室，並且要記得跟人 打招呼。 鄭石岩解釋，一旦你經常這樣作，行為影響情緒，人真得會變得比較快樂。第三樣處方是笑。因為笑的時候可以產生內臟按摩。而且笑的時候通常都會深呼吸，也會刺激身體產生令人舒服、愉快的分泌物。幾個星期下來，這位女主管真的有很好的轉變，她保持運動，心情也變好了，也不再有辭職的念頭了。
Sunday, June 06, 2010
Have you seen a pregnancy belly shaped like this before?
Yup …. That’s how active baby #2 is and I quickly asked Angel to grab my camera and actually manage to capture that precious moment of baby #2 doing don’t-know-what inside my poor tummy! Ouch!!! ^_^
Baby #2 is especially active after midnights and when I told doctor about it, she told me that baby #2 will most likely be following ‘that routine’ at least for the first few months after birth too i.e. sleep in the morning and stay awake and active after midnights. Oh dear ….. I certainly are not well prepared for that ..... yet!
Angel is a very nice & quite baby while she was in my tummy but look at how active she is now :) I certainly heard a lot of ‘good things’ about how ‘active’ and challenging a Gemini baby would be and hopefully, I can handle not just 1 crying baby, but 1 crying baby +1 active toddler at the same time without screaming my head off or calling for 911. *praying*
4 more days to go and counting down still .......... ^_^
Friday, June 04, 2010
Angel is growing up fast and well. At the age of 2, she starts to understand and take simple instructions. She is considered a bit slow in terms of speech but now that she is 3, I can see improvements in that area and she has been able to express herself better and communicate, sometimes even fights back when we said something she doesn’t agree of. Sometimes, I would forget that she is no more a small baby who will take all instructions and comments without any objections :P.
We used speak English at home and sometimes in Mandarin but somehow, she prefers (seems to understands) English better. Whenever we talk to her in Mandarin, most of the time she would response with
“What?? What?? What Mommy??” …………….. until we switch back to English.
Me: “Angel 近来真的很坏蛋哦！出街又不爱牵手，真的，下次要少点带她出去了 。。。。*bla bla bla*”
Me: Angel is getting very mischievous lately. She doesn’t want to hold our hands at all whenever we went shopping and I think we should bring her out lesser ….. *bla bla bla*
My Mom: “是咯，越大越顽皮，又不听讲！那天还冲出马路去，叫都不听！ 真的危险，该打！越来越不像话了 。。。。”
My Mom: Agreed! The older she is the more mischief she gets, not listening to us at all! That day, she even zoom towards the road out of a sudden disregard how I call her back and that’s really dangerous! She really needs a good smack …….
Suddenly we heard a loud and angry voice,
“HEY~~~~!!!! You CANNOT ! You CANNOT 打Angel ~~!!! Angel ANGRY !!!”
A bit surprised, I asked her in Mandarin:
(You understand what mommy is saying???)
Hahahahahahaha, now I know that she actually understands what we were saying and also paying attention to what we adults were chatting all the time when we thought she weren't. So my mom said next time we have to switched to Malay if we don’t want her to know that we are complaining about her :P :P
Thursday, June 03, 2010
……. and I still can’t believe it's here so soon !!!!!!!!
Finally I am back to Malaysia and getting everything prepared to welcome our little precious #2 into our family. In less the 6 days will be ‘THE BIG DAY’ for baby #2 already (Yeah ….. I know, can’t believe that it will be soooooo soon!!!) and it has been such a wonderful pregnancy journey so far. Actually my 2nd pregnancy experience is not much different from Angel’s time (if not worst). The horrible and terrible morning sickness, heartburn for a full 5 months and also, my health turning down hill since the day I conceived + all the pregnancy blues & mood swings, etc ….. however with Angel’s lovely smile surrounding me every single day and hubby’s understanding + constant shower me with all his tender loving care (he actually cooks + do all cleanings + ironing for the first few months *sweet* ^_^ ) and my mom’s great help in taking over Angel for a couple of months at the later stage of my pregnancy, etc ….. all these helping hands somehow makes things become more easy to bear and everything seems to pass by so quickly and smoothly.
So far, things has been rough during the 1st trimesters but thanks to my pregnancy brains not functioning properly, things which I still remembered mostly was the happy times which I had with our family of 3+1 spending together and going for baby #2’s monthly pre-natal check-ups, watching the little person doing all sort of funny moves in the tiny ultrasound screens, etc. Baby #2 is so much active then Angel’s time until at one point, I asked my obstetrician “Is too active considered a problem?????” which the obstetrician had a good laugh :P There is not much of baby #2 ultrasound picture taken due to baby is ever moving until the doctor has to tell her, “Calm down baby!! Calm down!!” each and everytime :)
With this pregnancy, I was also put on the high risk list of Pre-Gestational Diabetes (I have a border line results) and also baby #2 is found to be 2 weeks in advance in terms of size in the early stage. Hence as directed by the obstetrician, I really controlled what I ate and drink throughout this pregnancy in order to avoid the need of the insulin injection everyday. I have to poke my fingers 5 times per day (since my 24 weeks untill now) to monitor the level of my blood sugar after each and every meal and that is really something hard to forget ever!! *Oh …. My poor fingers* With Angel, I have gained a hefty 25 - 30 kg but with #2, I only gained 4 - 5kg so far (I started off very overweight also-lah FYI :P) and I am glad that with a healthy eating plan + increased my level of activities *thanks to hubby who drag me out of the house almost every few days*, baby #2 seems to grow well and healthily day by day without any medical intervention :)
I aslo get all sorts of different comments about my belly in this pregnancy. For example, some didn’t even noticed that I was pregnant when I was actually 6 months along the way (boarding flights without being noticed or need to fill up any forms) but on the other hand, I also got few strangers commented that my tummy look extremely huge for a 6th month belly and asked whether it’s twins *>’’<*. When I am back here in Malaysia, some would said that my tummy looks small for a 37th weeks pregger but some said it’s huge. *grin* So I really don’t know whether it’s small or large but doctor told me baby #2 is growth is right on track, not too big or too small which is great :) I even get to enjoy a great ‘babymoon’ during my 2nd trimesters after getting the green lights from my obstetrician ……. visiting LiJiang - travelling up a 4506m above sea level YuLong Snow Mountain (and we actually brought oxygen with us!) and also, been to JiuZhaiGou - jungle tracking and walking a few KM with my 6 months pregnant huge belly …… although I did get some strange looks from a lot of local travelers on and off (they must be wondering what a heavily pregnant woman doing here, walking and jungle tracking + stairs climbing in the jungle and such cold weather, etc) but I actually feels better physically and mentally after all the ‘exercises’ and the fresh air away from the polluted Shanghai City. Hubby is so nice to actually let me tag along for all his trips to Nanjing, ChongQing and ChengDu and therefore, I feels like I am actually having the greatest holiday in my life and forgot all about my aching back bone or sore feet after exploring all these places which I never had a change to visit before.
Baby #2 is also a very special baby :) This little person is very responsive (which is totally different from Angel) and whenever hubby is talking near my tummy, Baby #2 would actually response to hubby’s call and never fails to give hubby and me some ‘hint’ that baby is actually listening to us. Watching baby #2 doing all sorts of somersaults inside my belly is hubby’s favourite pass time too. This never happens in Angel’s time as Angel would totally ignore us when she was still inside my tummy. Baby #2 also loves milk as compare to Angel’s time where Angel only loves Milo and would only move during her milo time. Baby #2 will move non stop whenever I saw food on the table or every 3 hours after meal signaling me it’s time to Eat! Eat! Eat! (I actually ate minimum 5 meals per day) I began to love the feeling of baby #2 sleeping cosily inside my tummy as this little person hasn’t really bring much problems to me in terms of walking / moving around up to this point *happy*. When I was pregnant with Angel, I could hardly walk at all since I hit my 3rd trimesters and have to be confined at home most of the time. With Baby #2, I can still go shopping all day long and driving all day long all by myself without much problems which really makes my pregnancy journey much more enjoyable :)
I can’t believe that with just a blink of an eye, it’s only less then 6 DAYS away from ‘THE BIG DAY’ that I would actually get to meet baby #2 in person and hold this tiny little person in my arms for the very first time ^_^ Although I will be more then happy if baby #2 decided to hold on pass the EDD but guess that it’s never going to happen this time for this is my 2nd c-section and My Obstetrician advised to actually have the operation half month earlier. So I guess baby #2 would meet us earlier on her 38th gestational week instead?
Oh dear, I think I have started to miss my pregnancy journey and baby #2 staying inside my huge huge tummy already even before baby is born ……. I really never get bored or tired in this pregnancy for some reason ^_^ But anyway, kind of ‘gan cheong’ heading towards the day I get to meet baby #2 and kissed this little precious for the very first time ^_^ I must admit that I am very scared about the operation too at the same time *_*III
Wish me luck ^_^